2. Take
your time - Get to know the person over the Internet and let the
relationship develop before you meet them in person. Keep the old e-mail to
compare the information they give you and watch for inconsistencies.
3. Ask a
lot of questions - This will help you detect liars and cons and it will
help you find out if you're compatible.
4. Ask a
friend to read over the e-mail you receive - An unbiased observer can
spot warning signs you missed.
5. Don't
believe everything you read online - People can pretend to be whatever
and whomever they like.
6. Don't
give out personal information online - This is information that would
allow someone to find you offline, i.e. your full name, where you work,
where you live, your phone or fax number. Use an anonymous e-mail address
through services like Hotmail.com or Yahoo.com. When setting up the account,
be sure not to include any of your personal information.
7. Start
with a phone call - Use a public phone at first. Don't give out your
home number until you're comfortable.
8. Meet in
a public place - If possible, take a friend with you. A double date is a
safe way to start. If you don't take a friend, go someplace where there are
people. Start with coffee or lunch.
9. Tell a
friend - Make sure someone knows whom you are meeting, where you're
going and when you're coming back. Keep all the e-mail and let your friend
know where to find them if anything goes wrong.
10. Take a
cellular phone.
11. Never
leave public areas or go home with your date. Stay in public until you
know the person better.
12. Trust
your intuition - If it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't.
13. Report
any attacks or threats - Don't be embarrassed to report problems to the
police. Remember, if you don't report them, the same thing could happen to
someone else. Also, report any problems to the online dating service you
used.